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Ben Leichtling, Ph.D.


 
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Psychotherapist Ben continues his series on bullies talking about Bullying at work or in your relationships.

   Don’t Tolerate a Hostile Workplace: Stop Bullying Bosses. 

There are many bullying bosses at work. They’re finally getting the bad publicity they deserve. Typically, they:

  • Use verbal abuse, emotional intimidation and demeaning putdowns.

  • Yell, scream and threaten your job.

  • Play favorites.

  • Perpetuate turf wars.

  • Harass, dominate, control and create hostile, abusive workplaces.

  • Are just plain psychopaths.

  • Destroy your work-life balance.

Often, they’re so entrenched in the office, they’re hard to root out. But they’re worth stopping. Decide how much of your life to invest in exposing and trying to stop them, and when you may want to move on to a company in which your work ethic, responsibility and productivity are appreciated. 

Through coaching, consulting, speaking and my books and CDs, I’ll help you increase your motivation, strength, courage and self-esteem, and carry out appropriate tactics skillfully. 

   Don’t Tolerate a Hostile Workplace: Stop Bullying Co-workers and Employees.

Bullying bosses don’t hire me to help them bully their staff. They know I’ll identify them as the cause of the problem. 

Good bosses (owners, leaders, executives, managers) hire me when they have problems with poor attitudes and hostile, abusive cultures. They should recognize:

  • Verbal abuse, emotional intimidation and demeaning putdowns.

  • Dishonesty and hidden agendas.

  • Harassment, intimidation and fear.

  • Back-stabbing, gossip and boundary pushing.

  • Antagonism and turf wars.

  • Hyper-sensitive, over-reactive “Professional Victims.”

  • Lack of responsibility and poor work ethic.

  • Poor morale and teamwork.

  • High absenteeism and turnover.

There may be bullies and bullying at all levels of your company:

  • Other leaders, managers and executives.

  • Other managers.

  • Employees.

These bullies try to dominate co-workers. They try to control and manipulate supervisors, especially conflict-avoidant managers. They want special favors and then attack if the favors aren’t followed with more special treatment. They avoid honest evaluations. They get entrenched and form cliques to protect each other. 

Their verbal abuse and emotional intimidation cause tension and hostility. They become the focus of so much time and energy that they destroy productivity. They also can become the focus of your personal life. The best employees won’t stay if you let the worst drag them down. 

   How to Change These Abusive Situations.

Peaceful methods (understanding, tolerating, logic, reasoning, forgiveness) sometimes stop mild bullying. But you need firmer, stronger methods to stop relentless, determined bullies. 

It’s not easy, but it’s not as hard as you think. Use my coaching, consulting, speaking, books and CDs to take back your company. Your goals: Eliminate the high cost of low attitudes, and create a culture of responsibility, dedication and rewards for performance. Your rewards:

  • You won’t be wasting your time obsessing on the 10% of your employees who are dragging down the rest.

  • You and your staff can look forward to coming to work because you’ll have the right people working together to solve your business problems.

  • You’ll retain your best managers and employees.

  • Peace of mind: You can be gone and your organization will still hum.

If you want the wisdom and skills to do your best resolutely, diligently and effectively good for you—you’ve come to the right place!

  These methods work—they have been tested with real people like those you know.

Ben Leichtling, Ph.D., has studied how to stop bullies since his childhood on the mean streets of New York City. He has six children, thirteen grandchildren, and lives in Denver, home of Columbine High School. 

After a 23 year career as a research scientist, he became a practical, down-to-earth coach and consultant to help parents monitor and guide their kids in the real world full of bullies. 

He is a nationally syndicated columnist and over 300 of his articles have appeared in business, trade and psychotherapy publications across the country. His expertise has been featured in Woman's Day, Family Circle, USA Weekend, Entrepreneur and the Harvard Management Update. 

In plain English, not psycho-jargon, Dr. Ben has written books of his case studies, “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids” and “How to Stop Bullies in their Tracks.” 

Dr. Ben is a member of the National Speakers Association and its Colorado Chapter.

 

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